Candy blogs:I am me, of course, but I am made up of the influence of people I have spent time with throughout my life. I love to turn back the pages of time and browse through the faces of dear friends and family who have journeyed with me. Each of them was and is a unique kind of relationship, bringing just what I need at the right time.
♥ I hang my towels a certain way because I admired the way my aunt, Shirley, hung hers.
♥ I make my award-winning chili based on the way a friend from long ago, Callie, made hers.
♥ I make beds the way my Grandma Blanche taught me … right side to right side so when you make the bed and turn the edge down over the blanket, the “right” side of the edge shows. And when you turn back the sheets at night both “right” sides show.
♥ I am always aware of my countenance, the impression my facial expression gives, because of how taken I always was with the beautiful countenance of my aunt, Bonnie.
♥ I make sandwiches like my mom did, with the filling all the way to the edges of the bread so you can get everything in the sandwich with every bite.
♥ I take pictures differently because of the things my photographer daughter, Abbey, has taught me.
♥ I added lamps to bedrooms long ago because I loved the atmosphere they created when I visited in my mother in law, Patty’s, home.
♥ when I was first married I didn’t know how to make gravy. But when I visualized my mother making gravy and followed those steps, it came out perfectly.
This list is only the beginning of the things I have taken from dear people over my lifetime. We all have a list like this. We women are such relational beings. We define ourselves by our relationships. We need each other. Who is making this faith journey with you? Are you paying attention?
Listening friends … we all need someone who will just listen with a merciful heart when we need to blow off steam.
Truthful friends … our truth-telling friends keep us authentic and accountable. “Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates correction is stupid.” Proverbs 12:1
Confidante friends … so welcome when we have a deep need. They make us grateful for their trustworthiness and support.
“A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret.” Proverbs 11:13
Mentor and mentee friendships … there is always someone further ahead of us and always someone coming up behind us. These friends can help us see around corners, and we can help our younger sisters in the Lord feel more confident about stepping into the future.
Season of life friends … sometimes God brings people into our lives for a season. We might share a common sorrow or our kids are the same age or we have gone through similar experiences and can show support. God knows what we need in all seasons of our life.
It’s important to look around at who you spend your time with. Some relationships are toxic and draining, one sided, or forced and uncomfortable. We mustn’t allow ourselves to be overwhelmed or overshadowed by toxic relationships. Untangle yourself from these, or put up healthy boundaries. Protect your state of mind, your sense of well being from others who take more than they give.
Who we spend much time with does make a difference in who we become. Invest in friendships and relationships wisely. Take another look at your friends … who is influencing who in your relationships? Do you want to be like those you spend the most time with?
“He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.” Proverbs 13:20
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